Every year the number of cancer patients is growing, moreover, cancer is " Of course, everyone thinks that this cannot happen to him or his loved ones.. But, sadly, sometimes it happens.. What happens to a loved one during a period of illness, how to help him accept the diagnosis and find the strength to fight?

Psychologists have come to the conclusion that on the way between the diagnosis and the acceptance of the disease, the patient goes through several stages.. To tell the truth, it is so, only not everyone can realize and accept even such a simple truth..

Denial Stage one denial and shock. Usually this stage is inherent in people who embark on the path of examination and preliminary diagnoses.. When for the first time in the doctor's office it sounds - " The first thing that comes to mind is that it can’t be, someone mixed up something, the tests came not from me.. Something was mixed up in the laboratory, and it's not surprising, with such a large number of patients. The denial stage lasts quite a long time. Usually it all depends on the diagnosis itself, and on the location of the tumor, on the number of examinations.. Simply put, the stage of denial, in which you look for a lot of excuses, and oddly enough they are, last exactly until the moment when you don’t hear the final and final diagnosis in the doctor’s office.

Almost immediately, denial is replaced by shock.. Most people do not understand what is happening, everything around seems to be a bad dream, and these are not just words taken from a soap opera and said with picturesque rolled eyes, it really is. Oncology? No it can't be with me! I led a correct lifestyle, practically did not violate the commandments, did not smoke, did not drink, and periodically, and maybe even constantly went in for sports, ate right (underline as necessary). Shock and denial are inextricably linked, they go together all the time..

At this moment, a cancer patient needs support from relatives and friends, which at first is expressed in the analysis of life, all sins, etc.. Do not be surprised by aggression and irritation, or vice versa, complete isolation, this is how it will be. It's not so easy to find out that you signed a death warrant. The behavior of annoying relatives who will help cheer up the patient or, on the contrary, will not touch him, at this stage can be regarded in two ways.. With excessive support, you will have to face a wave of aggression and irritation, so dear loved ones - do not be offended and do not be upset. In the event that you do not touch the cancer patient, and leave him to think and realize what is happening for a while, this can be regarded as indifference. Which is also not very good.. We'll have to find a middle ground.

Anger and anger is the next stage. If relatives or loved ones think that the stage of depression is the most difficult, nothing like that. The next stage is the stage of anger. A cancer patient begins to blame everyone and everything for his deplorable state: all nuclear power plants with their explosions, nuclear weapons testing, drugs, all carcinogens, factory emissions, etc.. Blame everyone around who falls under the hot hand. Anger, at first impossible to curb. It is not uncommon for relatives, parents, especially if there were cases of illness in the family, to blame. As you know, the predisposition to the disease is inherited, and the fault of the parents lies in the fact that, according to the patient, no measures were taken for the early diagnosis of the disease..

Often doctors themselves become accused when no symptoms were revealed at annual examinations, and there was not even a suggestion of a disease.. Let's not pretend - all the medical examinations that employees undergo do not always give results.. Inspections are carried out according to one scenario - there are complaints? No. Well, on no, and there is no trial. But that doesn't mean the doctors are to blame.. Oncologists, chemotherapists and radiologists are a special category of doctors.

In addition, all socially disadvantaged people, alcoholics, drug addicts, people who have crossed the line of the law become objects of hatred.. Why are they all right, but I, leading a healthy and righteous lifestyle, have such a diagnosis? Where's the justice?

Usually the stage of anger does not last long, so doctors do not allow it to develop, as a detailed examination is underway, then an operation is prescribed.. It is precisely these circumstances that become an aid to a new stage - the stage of "

Trade The stage has a strange name, but it perfectly reflects the essence of what is happening. At this stage, a cancer patient begs for " You can beg for years of life from anyone: from the Almighty, the doctor, yourself, your body. Who's up for what.

Basically, begging is associated with taking any unusual drugs, or refusing something.. For example, asking the doctor for health and additional years of life in case of taking frayed shark cartilage or something like that.. There are many options, and from the outside they seem absurd. Do not forget that the attitude towards life in a cancer patient is changing..

It is precisely this stage of the psychological development of a cancer patient that is used by various scammers who promise recovery, of course for a tidy sum... It only seems to be nonsense and complete madness from the outside, when sick people and their relatives turn to various magicians and sorcerers for treatment, while refusing to. Along with it comes the realization of what exactly happened.. This stage is usually followed by active treatment with radiation and chemotherapy.. Appearance changes, and general well-being leaves much to be desired. It is the presence of a large amount of hair on the bed, constant nausea, lack of appetite, weight loss, etc.. lead to a final understanding of what is happening. And of course (no need to pretend), we all know what this can lead to in the end. But, again, this is not a reason to give up..

Unfortunately, not everyone understands this, or, having understood, they give up... A cancer patient is tired of fighting for life, he is tired of being a burden for relatives and friends. Even among cancer patients there are " Cancer patients with constant pain, forced to " The support of loved ones is especially needed here..

Acceptance Awareness and acceptance are different concepts and stages.. Few people dare to accept the disease, and not hang up their noses and continue the fight for the most valuable thing that a person has - life, whatever it may be. Even if it is filled with the smell of medicines, pain, and veins with needles from droppers, and also pain in the eyes of relatives... Andrey Lapushkin nedug. en.