In our " From childhood we are taught to be “comfortable”: not to shout, not to fight, not to stomp our feet.. “A well-mannered person is reserved,” we are told.

And we grow up, diligently shackling our inner “beast” in a tight suit of social norms. We smile when we are rude in line, swallow resentment when the boss devalues \u200b\u200bour work, and feel guilty for every sharp word..

The following is the text in the original language. Let's put the etiquette on the side and look at biology.

Aggression is not exactly about evildoers. This is about the Rukh. Few people know that the Latin word aggredi, which sounds like a term, literally means “to approach” or “to rush forward.”. This is pure energy..

Without the singing spirit of aggression, we wouldn’t be able to get up from bed today, we wouldn’t be able to win salary increases, and we definitely wouldn’t be able to secure our cordons, if we want to work hard without permission to get angry.

Today in Ukraine food aggression costs rubles. We see much of its destructive power today in new things, and we also feel it as a burning power that allows us to trim. So who is it for real: the enemy who ruins our hundreds, and the ally who helps us live in extreme minds?

The truth is that aggression is like fire. As she is unkerated, she smuggles everything together, depriving her family, career and life in the country. If you can tame them - they sparkle, cook food and brighten your paths. The problem is not the emotion itself, but the way we deal with it.

Hormonal cocktail: The biology of our “river” When you feel a surge of aggression, it’s not just a “bad mood”. This is a complex chemical operation in the middle of your body. In this case, when the brain identifies a threat (or jumps to the next step), the amygdala gives an alarm signal, and the mitten’s secretions release a “Molotov cocktail”: adrenaline, norepinephrine and cortisol..

This is the evolutionary mechanism that has been the source of millions of fates. Adrenaline makes the heart beat faster, pumping blood to the flesh, and norepinephrine sounds the focus of respect on the target. At this moment we are becoming the most powerful, the strongest and the most decisive.

An important nuance: Our body knows that you are going to fight off the hacker and are stealing your project in public. The chemical reaction is different, however.. The problem with the current world is that we take away a charge of energy for “fighting”, rather than being tired of sitting rigidly in a chair with our teeth clenched. This incomparable energy is not known anywhere - it begins to tear us apart from the middle.

Quiet beater: Why is passive aggression a storm? If aggressive aggression is not the blow of a flashlight (scary, loud, but it passes), then passive aggression is not radiation. You don’t worry, but it will completely ruin everything alive. We fall into passive aggression if we are afraid to express our anger directly. This looks like:.

Why is it not safe? First of all, passive aggression does not lead to conflict. Vaughn cans yogo. In another way, it saves your partner (or colleague) the opportunity to be proud or explain your position, even if formally “nothing happened”.

Ale naigirshe – price for the “lord”. Constantly streamlining the direct impulse leads to auto-aggression. Anger, which knows no way out, rotates 180 degrees and flows through the body.

Psychosomatics - from chronic back pain to advanced and heart ailments - are often the result of the fact that a person has “forged” his anger, instead of once putting the dots on the “i”.

We must understand: honest anger is an act of trust. This message: “It’s painful/unacceptable for me, and I want to change it”. Passive aggression is an act of capitulation of centurions.

Light side of power: When anger becomes your fire If we take aggression from bad behavior, lose it pure extract - energy for action. Psychology has the term “healthy aggression”, and without it, success in the modern world is simply impossible. This is the same internal mover that urges us not to settle for less and to achieve our.

Business has the energy of expansion. You noted that the most successful entrepreneurs are often people with “hot hair”? In business, aggression is transformed into passion and competitiveness. Healthy aggression allows you to:.

This is not about those to “go over the head”, but about those so that the mother has enough inner strength to take her place in the sun. The market is always a struggle for a resource, and it is dominated by those whose aggression is aimed at strategic development, and not at frivolous beasts.

Sports have the effect of “sports anger.” Ask any Olympic champion what he feels at the moment of the greatest roar. This is not “peace and grace”. This is pure, refined anger. Vaughn allows the body to reveal reserves that you never thought about. Sports anger turns on the inner critic who whispers “I can’t take this anymore,” and the “I’ll lose it” mode kicks in.. This is the moment when aggression grows willed to victory.

Defender of Cordons: Your Immune System Here aggression comes into play with the role of “psychological border guards”. If you do not give in to aggressive attacks, your cordons will be destroyed again and again - by relatives, colleagues, manipulators. Healthy aggression is worth:.

This is not obov'yazkovo buti cry. Sometimes the greatest rage of “light aggression” manifests itself in a cry of calm and firm: “It’s not possible for me.”.

Energy " This is the very anger that threatens business to operate during blackouts, volunteers find it impossible, and soldiers find themselves in a cramped position.. This anger is on the furnishings, which is melting away at the most powerful productivity. We don’t just see, we create “extraordinarily”.

How to “Tame the Dragon”: A Practical Toolkit Well, we understood: aggression is a great charge of energy. Nutrition depends on who you care for: with your charge and with you. There are three axis that will help you develop aggression with your tool, and not with curses.

There is a microscopic gap between the stimulus (whether you are overdosed or rudely exposed) and your reaction.. Your task - expand її. As only people have noticed what is boiling in their chests, take one deep look. Literally “see” the first impact of adrenaline. This gives the prefrontal cortex (your internal analyst) an hour to regain control of the emotional amygdala.

Aggression becomes destructive if there is “nothing”. Instead of breaking dishes and walking in passive ignorance, try naming the emotion. “Your words make me even more angry” – this is no longer an attack, but a statement of fact. When we voice anger, its intensity decreases and its constructiveness increases. If you don’t have a spivozmovnik, you mark your cordon.

If you feel that excess “charge” has accumulated in the middle, do not check the bulge. Get it straight to the point. Important athletics, running, cleaning the house and writing a sharp text are ideal “grounders”. Healthy anger is the best hour to conquer the task that you have been laying out for months.

New ethics of feeling It’s time to divide emotions into “good” and “bad”. The light is not black and white, it is colorful and functional. Aggression is not a sign of your “filthiness” or lack of vigor.

It’s your job to be alive, active and help fight against.

Be the master of your aggression - means be human, as is your inner spine. It’s important to know that you have teeth, but only remove them unless absolutely necessary..

Today's buti is " This means transforming anger into action, image into ambition, and more into freedom to live. Don't be afraid of your inner fire. Just get used to it and it won’t burn you, but you will become a light for others to follow.