When the birth is left behind, the question arises before the spouses as to how and when it is possible to resume the intimate life. Unfortunately, not always such questions are solved by a woman to ask a gynecologist - and completely in vain, because the correct behavior in this case directly affects the health of the wife.

What do the doctor's say?.

Usually gynecologists call a period of about 40 days - so much on the average you need to abstain. However, in the event of complications in childbirth or the postpartum period, the indicated period may extend.

Of course, all individually, it happens that even after the expiration of the period called by the gynecologist, it is painful for a spouse to have sex, and sometimes the pain is aggravated by the appearance of blood. In the latter case, you should immediately consult a doctor to make sure that the healing process has not been disturbed, and to prevent infection.

What should the wife do?.

In addition to strict adherence to hygiene and the implementation of medical prescriptions, it is worth doing a few more actions. First of all, start doing the same Kegel exercise, which is advised to all women without exception. Strengthening and training of muscles will also help to cope with unpleasant sensations. You need to work on yourself in psychological terms: it happens that pain during the first attempt scares the woman away from further.

To get rid of fear, try to remember what was the intimate life before the birth of the baby. Surely you will soon want to return to past feelings, and such a desire will be an excellent motivation to overcome fears.

What should a spouse do?.

First of all, be patient, no matter how trite sounds like this advice. To hurry and the more so to blame his wife for indecision is not worth it, since you will only aggravate her fears and unwillingness to resume her intimate life.

It is likely that just the desire she has, but the pain takes him to the background. In this case, you will have to try to keep the desire and wait for the moment when pain will pass.

For many couples, the resumption of intimate life after childbirth becomes a sort of test - to withstand a certain period without sex, and even in new, unusual conditions, when a baby is born in the house, not all. But if you pass the test with honor, you can confidently assert that the family relationship will become stronger.