Why do some people stop and others never give up?.
Some people who start a diet and exercise program are thrown very easily after the first serious obstacle they face. As soon as they feel the slightest bit of despondency or frustration, they leave even their highest goals and dreams, according to the Internet edition for girls and women from 14 to 35 years old Pannochka. Net On the other hand, some people NEVER abandon the started. They have a fierce constancy and never let go of their goals. These people are similar to a bulldog who refuses to release a bone, holding his teeth. The harder you drag a bone, the stronger it clings to it.
What is the difference between these two types of people? Psychologists say that there is an answer.
An extremely important basis for achieving success in fitness is the notion that "there is no failure; Only moving forward. You do not fail, but only get results ".
This is the fundamental principle from the field of neurolinguistic programming (NLP), because it is a very, very powerful change in thinking.
Many people give up and leave only because what they try first does not work. They consider this to be a permanent failure, but all they need is a small change in attitude, a change in thinking, or what we call "rethinking".
Instead of saying "This is a failure," they can say to themselves: "I prepared the result" and "This is just a temporary phenomenon". This simple change in perspective should change the way they feel and how they mentally process and explain their experience. This turns into a learning opportunity and valuable feedback for correcting the course, instead of giving up, and it leads to the continuation of the classes and moving forward.
Your results and their interpretation Dr. Martin Seligman, professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, did some incredible research on this and wrote about him in his book, "The Lessons of Optimism". Dr. Seligman noticed that the difference between people who fail and people who persist and never go away - in what he called "The style of explanation". He said that the style of explanation is the way we explain or interpret bad events or failures in life.
People who usually give up have an explanatory style of permanence. For example, they stop in their progress, and explain this by saying, "diets never work" or "I have bad genetics, so I will always be fat". These explanations imply consistency.
Other people face the same challenges, but explain them differently. They say things like, "I ate too much food this week," or "I did not find the right diet for my body type". Such explanations of the results are of a temporary nature.
People who see negative results as permanent failures are those who easily surrender and often generalize their "failures" in many other areas of their lives and even in their own sense of responsibility for their actions.
It's one thing to say, "I did not eat well last week because I traveled," (belief in a temporary phenomenon), and quite another, "I'm a fat man because of my genetics" (identification with a sense of permanence). Remember, the fat content in the body is just a temporary condition, and not a personal one!.
People who see challenges and obstacles as temporary and as valuable events for a set of experiences - never give up. If you study your experiences, do not repeat what did not work in the past and if you want to never give up, remember - your success is inevitable.
Health. Sumy. Ua.