We are accustomed to considering restraint as a sign of strength - in a culture where it is customary to “hold on” and not show weakness. Outwardly, such a person often looks collected and functional: he works, takes care of loved ones, solves everyday problems, keeps himself in control. But it is precisely this habit that often becomes the cause of deep exhaustion.

The following is the text in the original language. In this material we share thoughts about the line of psychological support for the call center #VARTOZHITI - Olga Mukha and Nadiya Klochnik - about those who are such “inhuman” emotions, why they are.

In everyday life, people often divide emotions into “right” and “wrong” ones.. Call upon others to bring anger, rubbish, stagnation, image or powerlessness - those that are difficult to display or difficult to show to others. Such experiences themselves are often called “inhuman” emotions.

As Olga Mukha explains, most often people try to “weave out” anger, rubbish, stagnation, image, jealousy, powerlessness or disappointment in loved ones.

“We don’t want to get along with them, because the stink of ruining the idea of \u200b\u200ba “good person” or a “strong person”. But the emotion doesn’t know what it can be called, it just changes shape,” says the expert.

The reason for this is often criticized in basic social attitudes: “don’t be angry”, “be gentle”, “touch yourself”, “don’t cry”. Today, these external rules become internal fences, and people themselves no longer allow themselves to understand those who are really worried.

The most dangerous things in suppressed emotions are those that often manifest themselves dramatically. Often a person does not cry or cry - she simply lives in a constant internal tension, which over time begins to become normal.

Olga Mukha respects that people can inevitably respect themselves as “calm” and “non-conflict”, although in reality they simply do not allow themselves to experience anger. The result is chronic depression, psychosomatic symptoms, passive aggression or emotional disturbances.

Most often unnoticed, the background elements are lost - those that accompany people's fates. For example, toxic debris, such as moisture deficiency or permanent irritation.

“The people no longer say: “I’m sorno”, but rather: “I am so”. Not “I immediately feel insufficient”, but “I am insufficient”. Emotion gradually begins to be accepted as part of identity,” explains Olga Mukha.

In these words, healthy rubbish helps regulate social connections, while toxic rubbish has connections not with behavior, but with the very sense of the right to be oneself. Apparently, lack of energy is often disguised as motivation, but in reality it leads to internal hardness, impostor syndrome and burnout.. And background disruption can often be a signal of systemic disruption between.

Among the typical signs of being out of touch with your emotions is a lack of awareness, an inability to admit to yourself what I am immediately feeling? " People often get confused by their personality or personality.

Emotion is a reaction of the nervous system. When we feel fear, anger, or whatever, the body is mobilized: breathing changes, muscles are strained, stress hormones are activated. As the emotion is experienced, the reaction gradually ends. If they are constantly depressed, the body loses tension.

As Nadiya Klochnik explains:.

“When emotions are constantly suppressed, the body loses tension. This means that the physiological reaction does not negate the natural completion"

Unlived emotions themselves gradually transform into chronic stress. People may experience problems with sleep, difficulty concentrating, bodily tension, twitchiness or emotional distress.. And this is not about weakness, but about the re-improvement of the nervous system.

With the oncological diagnosis, this topic becomes even more pressing. After the news about illness, many people are quickly going into the “need to get together and fight” mode.. Fear, destruction and anger often come first.

Nadiya Klochnik explains:.

“The culture has a strong awareness that the patient may be “strong”, so crying, panic or powerlessness are perceived as being ignorant”.

Along with anxiety and depressive experiences, cancer patients often struggle with less important, and even more pressing, issues: internal self-esteem, the grip of “toxic positivity,” guilt before loved ones for their condition.. People can understand that it’s important to worry about the celebration, and also to capture powerful fear for this reason, so as not to babble at your relatives.

Olga Mukha says that psychological support in oncology is not about “talking for the sake of the mood”, but about changing the additional emphasis on the nervous system, which is how it works in superpower mode.

Focus not only on the power of experience, but also on the triviality of life and the joy of life. As soon as your sleep gets longer, you lose sleep, you get tired, you have to work hard and take care of yourself - this is no longer just an “important period”.

Signals that people may need psychological help: “If it’s going on for a long time, it’s going to get worse, or it’s not going to be easy to lose it all alone.”. For whose main line of psychological support #VARTOZHITI number 5522, you can talk to the fakhivs without harm,” says Olga Mukha.

The sign “trimatise” often looks like strength, but in reality it can cost the psyche and body dearly. Emotions that we ignore are unknown - the stench accumulates in the form of chronic stress, depression, anxiety or internal emptyness.

Therefore, recognizing powerful emotions, not being disturbed by them, and always seeking help is not weakness, but one of the most important skills in self-care. Better support begins not with the phrase “I can show you,” but with honest recognition: it’s less important - and I can ask for support.