Is it good for baby to sleep with parents The issue is still controversial.. But more and more doctors are coming to the conclusion that sleeping with mom is only good for the baby.. The baby hears the mother's breathing, calms down himself, calm and mom.

Leonid Arbuzov, a neurologist and candidate of medical sciences, answers MedPulse readers' questions about children's sleep problems.

Is it good for a baby to sleep with parents

- Son is 9 months old. Very often, when he wakes up at night, he calms down only in our bed, falling asleep next to me and my husband.. But I'm afraid one of us might accidentally crush him.. And I would like to know: is sleep good or bad for the baby with his parents?

- It has long been proven that a mother’s sleep next to a child is very sensitive, so she cannot “press down” him. Such a danger exists only if the woman is under the influence of certain medications or in a state of alcohol (or drug) intoxication.. Dad's sleep is deeper, so it's safer for baby to sleep between mom and the wall or edge of the bed.

Is it useful or not for a baby to sleep with his parents is still a moot point. But more and more doctors are coming to the conclusion that sleeping with mom is only good for the baby.. The baby hears the mother’s breathing, it calms him down, he sleeps better, and mom, I must say, too. Studies have been conducted of mother and infant sleeping together. It turned out that in this situation, mother and baby even move together from one phase of sleep to another, from deep sleep to superficial and back.. When the mother wakes up, the baby wakes up and vice versa. In a dream, mom strokes the baby, reassuring him.

Opponents of co-sleeping mother and child believe that an infant who constantly sleeps with his father and mother develops an unhealthy psychological dependence on parents.

What do I think about this? If a child falls asleep daily in a parent's bed, or at night only the presence of mom and dad can calm him down, you should not fight his needs. But parents must follow two mandatory rules. The baby should still have its own crib, and mom and dad should not sleep with the baby.

Night terrors of a child - My daughter recently turned 5 years old. Until recently, we had no problems with sleep. Now Lisa says every evening that she is afraid to go to bed: while she sleeps, the whole city will drown, like a ship drowned in some cartoon! Or says he doesn't want to die! And at night she jumps up or just screams something in her sleep. Why does a small child have a fear of death? Is there anything I can do to help her reduce her nightmares

- Even babies experience various fears, and at the age of 5 to 8 years, children experience their peak and many are associated with death. This is the fear of darkness, wars, fire, modern fear - terrorists, fear of animals - that is, that which poses a threat to life.. This is due to the fact that at the age of five, the child's intellect is rapidly developing and, above all, abstract thinking develops.. The kid begins to understand concepts such as time and space, and understand that everything has a beginning and an end.. Including the end of him and the life of his loved ones.

Of course, this discovery is traumatic, there is a fear of death.

Very often it is realized in the form of nightmares.. How can you help a child who has nightmares To help, as an option, the fairy tale " Read it to your daughter at night. And when the baby does not see, make a fabulous one out of an ordinary umbrella by gluing beautiful applications to it and painting it with paints. And after reading the fairy tale, open this magic umbrella over the crib and tell her that now she will only have good dreams.! This simple technique should reduce the frequency of nightmares. If the child is regularly tormented by nightmares, this is an occasion to consult a psychologist..

Also, writing a story on the topic " With the help of drawing, you can weaken those fears that were born of the child’s imagination, horrors from nightmares and experiences born of real events.. Play is an excellent psychotherapy.

To rock or not to rock a baby?

- Son Andryusha recently turned one month old. The mother-in-law says that it is useful to rock the child, but I ask her not to do this, believing that it is addictive. Therefore, I give the baby just to scream before going to bed, and he falls asleep. Which one of us is right?

- Your mother-in-law is right.. The fact is that the baby, being in the womb, sways all the time in the amniotic fluid - this is his natural state.. Passage through the birth canal, a new, bright, not too friendly environment - all this is a stressful situation for a newborn. Motion sickness before going to bed reminds the baby of his " Of course, the child gets used to motion sickness. But it's not a lifetime cross for parents. As soon as his nervous system gets stronger, he himself will refuse it..

But screaming before going to bed is harmful for a child. A long cry is the path to a nervous breakdown and a hernia. Yes, and your child falls asleep not because he calmed down, but tired of his own crying.

Sleep disturbance in babies - Daughter is 3 months old and she does not sleep for more than an hour or two, day or night. Wakes up crying and it's impossible to rock her! Then he falls asleep again. And so all day. What to do?

- There can be several reasons for such a violation of the sleep and wakefulness regimen.. Babies under 4 months often sleep restlessly. It's related to digestive problems.. Is the child's stool normal Does he suffer from colic If the baby is bottle-fed, consult a pediatrician: it may be worth changing the milk formula.

If a child wakes up crying in the morning, this is a cause for concern - whether he is suffering from headaches caused by intracranial pressure? Crying and restless sleep can also be caused by other neurological problems.. Therefore, you still need to consult a neurologist.

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